‘I’m becoming controlling and aggressive in my relationship’

Ask Roe: ‘I’m scared I’ll lose our connection but my behaviour is pushing them away’

‘I seem to be trying to put a wedge between my partner and other people they’re close to, either by starting fights every time they go out, or trying to embarrass them in front of their friends.’ Photograph: iStock

Dear Roe,
I’ve noticed myself developing more and more possessive and controlling behaviours in my current relationship. It’s cropped up in the past, but not to the same extent. Every time my partner’s phone goes off, I’m itching to know what it’s about, and assuming the worst.

I suffer from a lack of confidence and have a tendency to develop a co-dependency with romantic partners, but I’m scared that I can no longer control myself.

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